"Be the kind of friend a friend would like to have"...

Sharon- We have never physically met.  We were introduced through FB by your beloved husband, my High school friend.  Ron, knew I had traveled the road of Cancer, not just any Cancer, but "Brain Cancer".  He asked me to be there to talk, listen and just understand.  Answer questions that are scary to ask, and re-open my wounds. 

I without reservation, knew that if Geoff's life was to mean anything then it is my job to use that experience to help those who ask.  I hold nothing back and there is no subject that is off limits.  I am willing to open myself up and be vulnerable if what I have to share is of value.

The nights will seem endless and the days will too.  Just try and be kind to yourself.  Talk to the sky, whisper in the wind.  Cry, I was too afraid I wouldn't stop- you will. (trust me)  Ask for what you need, if you need a friend to spend the night, ask.  If you need to be alone, understand if a friend wants to just be in another room.  Eat, drink water...take your meds if you are on them. 

You will be on a high for a while, then you will crash out of sheer exhaustion and the simple fact, that your role as full time caregiver, lover, friend, counselor, chauffeur has come to a screeching halt.  Be extra careful to make sure that someone knows that after all of the attention, everyone else gets to go back to "Normal Living".

There is no "Normal Living" for us, we just try and get through it minute by minute.  The calls will minimize, but don't take that as no one cares, it just is "what it is".  You will keep some close friends and others will tire of the stories told and retold.  Phewwie with them, a good friend will let you romanticize and remember.  This is where the rubber meets the road and you find out who your friends are!

Remember, not everyone is cut out to handle the reality of loss, it is scary and some feel it is contagious...Yikes...seriously, they do.

There will be days when you just don't want to peek out over the covers, take that time to rest and dream.  Force yourself to shower and get some sunshine.

Journal your day's, it is amazing to see in the days, months and years how much has changed and how much has not. 

There is so much that will be hurled your way, just draw on the strength of your love and the wisdom in that pretty little head of yours. 


Do not make any major financial or logistical moves for one year, no matter how convincing anyone can be....Repeat that out loud Girlfriend...

Repeat several times..."I am strong, capable and my life has purpose"

You are not alone....